Do I have to be a woman to participate in this community?

No. Any user who can follow the rules is welcome here. Women, men, nonbinary, agender, genderqueer, cis folks and trans folks, everybody. If you're not on board with that, you can fuck right off.

But what about the subreddit name?

Read this post from when 2XC was only a month old. We haven't changed our stance since then, and never will.

What about trans women?

Trans women are women. TERFS can fuck right off.

What are the rules, anyway?

TL;DR: Keep it civil, keep it relevant. Don't start shit, won't be shit.

You can find the rules in the sidebar (community info for mobile users), or here's a direct link: 2XC Rules

Most moderator actions are the result of users breaking Rule 1: RESPECT. If you keep Wheaton's Law* in mind and participate in good faith, you'll probably never hear from the mod team.

  

^{*Wheaton's Law: Don't be a dick.}

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For more in-depth interpretations of the rules above, see the 2XC FAQ and 2XC Moderation Policy.

Reddit is deliberately killing third-party apps. If you use Apollo, RIF, BaconReader, or essentially any Reddit application other than the official Reddit app, you will no longer be able to do so come July 1st.

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By implementing comically exorbitant fees for their previously-free API (the technology that apps use to exchange data with the site) Reddit has taken steps to force use of the official Reddit app, mobile browser, or nothing when using the site from mobile. This is likely in advance of its widely-rumored upcoming IPO.

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This significantly hinders the great many people who find the official Reddit app to be bloated and difficult to use. It is also a harsh blow for accessibility, with Reddit flatly restricting the ability of blind users to access the platform thanks to its poor first-party app. While Reddit has been creating and abandoning Talks, creating and abandoning RPAN, and fine-tuning silly avatars and award icons, they have left accessibility and community health in the dust.

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What does this mean for /r/TwoXChromosomes?

Many subreddits are choosing to "black out" to protest Reddit's decision. While /r/TwoXChromosomes supports protests of Reddit's deeply harmful corporate greed, we prioritize the wellbeing of our community above all else and believe it's important that the subreddit stay operational for you to use.

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As moderators, when we face the large and fast-moving queue in /r/TwoXChromosomes, the official Reddit app can be nonsense to moderate with when compared to far more functional third-party apps. The same comment removals and bans that can be quickly and easily done in RIF or Apollo can take longer and be more difficult in the official app. While Reddit has promised to add and streamline official app functionality, the history of moderating on Reddit is the history of hearing admins promise positive development and not follow through. We have strong reason to believe that Reddit will not prioritize the health of our community, or anything other than shareholder interests.

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While you can join us in calling on /r/Reddit to not take away the tools we use to browse and maintain their site, you can also help the mod team here at /r/TwoXChromosomes. Please click "report" on any rule-breaking comments you see, to ensure we can find them since it'll be harder for us to do now. You can modmail us to bring something very prominent or very vile to our attention. If you use Reddit just from your desktop, or are okay with moderating slowly and clumsily from a phone, please apply to become a mod. Thanks to our reduced ability to moderate, the subreddit will very likely become a worse and more uncomfortable place to be until we can figure out how to fill those gaps without support from the admins.

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Reddit is throttling our moderation ability with this move, and we'll need all the help we can get. If you see an increase in rule-breaking and truly horrible comments, please understand that the mod team is doing the best we can but Reddit is standing actively in our way.

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We deeply hope that Reddit chooses to prioritize the safety of some of its most vulnerable users over its IPO, but sadly not having that expectation, the moderators of /r/TwoXChromosomes would be grateful for your help and understanding.

Today I saw yet another post by the likes of "Women are triggered we'll soon have sex robots, ha ha!" and it's like... We're not?

The thing about AI is that it doesn't disagree (unless you tell it to in which case, is it really disagreeing?). It doesn't have hard stances, boundaries, things that annoy you or find anything annoying about you. No personal problems, no rough patches, no changes or disagreements. It's essentially a piece of clay you can mold to your liking

And while it sounds perfect on the surface, most of the things above are a part of everyday life. They're obvious consequences of being a sentient being. If a man says "I'd rather have an AI sex robot" it essentially means that they never wanted to be with a human to begin with. They want a shell they can control and dress up to their liking, something obviously harmful when tried on a real person

So if I heard a man say that, I'd actively encourage him to get the robot and never try to pursue a relationship with a real woman because nobody deserves to be with someone who'd prefer for you to be an object

Why do men think we'd be upset over losing a change to be with someone like that?

The book is The Experienced Midwife, by William Salmon and Aristotle

I thought this community might be interested in some outtakes. Here are some things it said

1 "It is not the having these parts, but the unlawful use of them that causes shame" (regarding female anatomy)

2 The larger the clitoris is, the more lustful the woman

3 A woman cannot conceive if she did not enjoy the sex

4 Embryos are nourished by menstrual blood until the umbilical cord forms. If the menstrual cycle doesn't stop with pregnancy, it is because the embryo couldn't eat it all

5 Pregnancies with female babies are more painful than those of sons

6 A "sinewy production" called the urachos leads from the bladder to the belly button to expel the urine of the fetus. Anatomists say no such organ exists, but the writer knows it does, because he knows two adults who told him they could pee out of their belly buttons with no negative impact on their health.

7 Umbilical cords should be cut longer for boys, as it makes their penis longer. Girls' umbilical cords should be cut short, so their vaginas will be narrow. This will make them "acceptable to their husbands"

8 Conception can't happen without love. "if their hearts be not united in love, how should their seed unite to cause conception; and this is evidently evinced in that there never follows a conception on a rape"

9 Virgins letting blood from their arm before their first period causes barrenness because it prevents blood from falling down to the womb, which makes it dry up. Virgins should have blood let from the foot

10 Women who have frequent sex and older women have gristly vaginas

There was some very useful information in this book, but it had shocking misogyny, plus lots of dodgy medicine and a smattering of racism.

So my husband and I have a wonderful relationship and have been together going on 10 years.

Well we love to spend time together. The other day we carpooled to work together and got to spend the morning with eachother it was chill and really nice.

My husband's job has a group meeting once a month. So that day they asked everyone to share a "positive" and people share a positive in the last month. Kid graduated, got the car fixed etc....

Well my husband brought up our lovely morning together and how he dropped me off at work and how nice that was and it brightened his day.

I am not kidding you evvvveryyyy man responded with something along the li es of "I'd kill myself if I had to drive to work with my wife" "oh my God how is that a positive" "it would ruin my day if I had to do that"... all very publicly and in front of allll their co workers. And even trying to shame my husband for enjoying my company and wanting to spend time with me.

I'm just convinced that most husband's do not like their wives abd really just don't want to spend time with them or their families. Like how! How am I lucky that I have a partner that enjoys my company? Is that the bar?

Jesus the bar is in the ground I swear.

I (35 f)Wanted to watch the Barbie movie and thought my husband(40 m) would be down to watch it with me(he said he was).

Not even 10 minutes into the movie and he's like this is boring as fuck.. this movie is for kids blah blah

So I say fine we don't have to watch this..cause obviously you don't want to. I'll watch it by myself some other time...So I turn it to something else.

To which he then starts googling the movie and what men think of it along with if men should watch it... Pulls up some random shit from the Internet..

Hes like I don't need to watch this... We have tons of discussions and what not. It's for conservative men blah blah blah...

Just having an attitude about it.

Now he all annoyed from it and decided to wash dishes while listening to very heavy metal and then go work down in the garage so I can watch my movie... or whatever.. over a movie.... Like seriously..

Obviously am not gonna watch it now while he around.. hell it's date night but just cause he didn't like what I choose even tho he said sure he having a tantrum.. fucking men..

I get that he has epilepsy and the meds don't help but is it just me or is this uncalled for? Feel like am the bad guy for wanting to watch Barbie...

This has just been bothering me since it happened, for context my boyfriend and I (both of us 24) bought a house together about a year ago in a new state and we don’t have any friends/family

Our neighbors are a couple 30F/38M. I’ve started to get closer to her, and we’re becoming friends (I don’t have a lot of friends) and I like hanging out with her. But her husband and my bf’s personalities just don’t really match. Which is fine! You don’t have to be friends with everyone. It just bums me out bc that could be a great friendship between the 4 of us. I was talking to my bf about that exact thing and he said “yeah he’s just kind of a beta male”

I stopped and looked him dead in the eyes and said “if you think he’s a beta what does that make you?” he got an embarrassed smirk on his face and I kept asking him and saying like “come on, say it” bc the idea of him referring to himself as an “alpha male” is such an ick. I think he knew that and he wouldn’t say anything after that.

We’ve been apart for awhile while he’s been at a longer army officer training and I think that’s just been messing with his view of the world, being surrounded by a bunch of army guys for 6 months now. I sure hope so bc now I gotta feel him out when he gets home to see if he’s become this toxic masculinity type guy permanently or is just going through a phase

Just a small rant I guess. Apologies in advance for any mistakes, and for talking about something that gets repeated a lot.

My fiance and I were at a warehouse store today. We pull our cart up to an area with 6 packs of gallon water. An older (elderly?) woman asks my fiance to help her get a pack of water and just generally chit chats with us. Positive interaction. Then as she walks away she says 'congratulations on your baby,' to me. I'm not pregnant, just unfortunately rounder than I'd like.

I didn't say anything. Couldn't think of anything. Sigh. So tired of this. Why do people think it's appropriate to comment? Last time I was at a doctor's appointment, the lady drawing my blood congratulated me too. And the phlebotomist ironically was the same body shape as me.

Anyone have any comebacks or reassurances for me and others?

I posted in this sub a couple months ago about my ex. Long story short, we had a horrific rship where he was incredibly abusive, I dumped him, he begged for me back and literally 2 days later changed his mind and started dating someone else.

On the surface, he was super into her. They spent every day together, posting pictures, having fun, etc. Behind her back, he was still telling me how he was hung up on me but things just wouldn't work out between us (because he was/is a toxic asshole, but he couldn't deal w that lol). I did not disagree - I just didn't point out that the reason we didn't work out was all him.

3 months into their relationship, he dumps her (she didn't take it well, tried to change his mind multple times) and comes running back to me. I tell him if he works on himself, I'll consider it. He did not. He tried to lead me on into a situationship and I noped out of it real fast. He got angry and "sad" about my rejection - you know, because I didn't want to be led on.

Cut to a couple weeks later and as per usual, he's back to his fuckboy ways and oh yeah, his rebound girl has become one of his (many) fuckbuddies.

I cannot emphasize how sorry I feel for this woman, settling first for being a rebound and now hoping that if she hangs around long enough, he'll get back with her. She is in her... early 30s, I think, and I'm in my late 20s, and I truly wish I could tell her to please move on, stop wasting her life and leave this man who is only out to use her kindness. I put up with for 1.5 years and it was not worth it at all. He literally told me, "She's such a people pleaser it was becoming unattractive" and I was actually speechless.

Do not, I repeat, do not settle for being with an abusive or even neglectful man. Do not settle for being a rebound or for bare minimum. Be so wary of manipulative men who just got dumped and are lovebombing you because they're more likely hunting for validation than actually interested in you. You deserve better. You are worth so much more than people who are more interested in walking all over you than they are in you as a person.

I'm not sure what kind of outrageous bs lawyers are allowed to say in court about child victims of SA and murder but I can't help but feel there must be a special place in hell for one who would stoop this low. Trigger warning on details in the aticle: https://bc.ctvnews.ca/mobile/lawyer-in-ali-murder-trial-says-13-year-old-b-c-victim-was-not-an-innocent-1.6669743

One year into our relationship, my husband told me he did not want children. I had previously imagined having a family, and it took me a few months to decide if this was going to be a deal breaker for me. I did the math and decided that it wasn't. Several years on, I don't regret the decision and I love my life, but I still feel tender about it sometimes.

However, I did not imagine the onslaught of people asking if (or when!) we are having kids. Lots of the people close to me already know that we're not, and I didn't realise it was the kind of topic that co-workers and acquaintances felt totally comfortable bringing up.

It makes me sad to tell them no, and I think it's going to be a tough couple of months while everyone gets it out of their system.

I posted a picture on my instagram and he dmd me calling me pretty, I replied (because I thought he was cute I gave him my instagram) and we started chatting.

He said that he thought I was cute but didn't want to interrupt my time with my family. I said I thought he was cute too and said he should have asked me out.

He said "I almost did!!" and then for proof showed me that he had taken several pictures and videos of me without my knowledge or consent.

I'm really freaked out - I blocked him but I just feel really violated and anxious about it and needed to get some validation for what i'm feeling.

Thanks for reading

Ten years ago I got out of my last long term relationship and I started a dating journal. I was 26 at the time and have since kept track of every date I've been on. Today I went back and read through most of it and found it fascinating. I'm sure some of the changes were from my personality and preferences evolving over the years as I got older, but some are definitely major cultural changes.

Anecdotal trends I noticed: Openly dating is much more open. It's common for men to openly talk about the other women they are seeing now. This NEVER happened ten years ago, it seems like it really changed after COVID.

Dating apps seems to be the exclusive way to meet people now. Rarely does someone just come up and talk to me when I'm out. I also don't usually talk to a stranger when I'm out myself, so I'm part of the problem.

First dates are WAY more casual, personally I think it's a good change. Most are just a drink or a coffee. I haven't had a first date at a movie or full dinner since 2018.

I split all bills on dates now. Probably comes from a more stable financial situation being further in a career, but it seems like it's just understood that it's going to be split.

Guys apparently HATE wearing condoms now. Everytime I bring it up they act like I'm from the dark ages. "Oh, I haven't used a condom in years" is a common response. In almost all encounters when I started the journal it wasn't even a conversation, guys just put one on when it progressed to the point where we were having sex.

In their defense, almost every guy now has a recent STD test result on their phone and gladly shows it off.

To go along with this. If not specifically discussed, guy's not wearing a condom just don't pull out. In 2013-2016 that happened 0 times. No discussion was default to pull out. 2020-2023, 100% of the time if not discussed they did NOT pull out.

Grooming seems to have fallen away. Lot's of unkempt bushes, not a good trend.

Ghosting is super common now. Since 2020, 60% of guys I actually met for a date completely ghosted at one point with no reason given.

Rimjobs went from pretty far on the taboo side of things to everyone under 30 doing it without even discussing. To the point where in 2016, the first time I received one, I noted that it happened after a long discussion. In a recent 2023 entry it was barely noted as part of casual foreplay.

Seems like an obvious thing but since 2020 politics have become a serious deal breaker for the guys I've met.

In general the fitness level of guys has decreased a TON. Probably part of dating older people more than a cultural change.

Dating/sex in general is WAY more casual.

Stats: Gone on dates with 234 different individuals.

25/234 first met in person (none since 2019)

200/234 matched on Tinder/Bumble/Hinge

3/234 met on Reddit

6/234 introduced by a friend/coworker

74 sexual partners

Oldest date was 66 (this year, I was 35)

Youngest date was 19 (It was when I was 26)

I'm a white female I split time between urban Midwest and parts of the rural PNW, so demographically dates are all over the place.

Anyway, I thought it was very interesting to see how dating/sex has changed in my life over 10 years as different technologies come and go.

BACKSTORY: I’m a physician assistant making 98,400 and I recently learned that one of my male colleagues is at 118,450. We started around the same time, same years of experience.

Note; he negotiated to get to 115k when he was hired and has gotten a 3% annual raise to get to where he is now. His original offer was the same as mine. I accepted an offer at 95K and have gotten one performance based raise and one annual 3% raise to get me to 98,400.

Note; my schedule is insane when compared to his. Example yesterday i had 25 patients on my schedule and he had 4. I work in our addiction medicine and primary care within the same day, every work day. He only does primary care.

I put in my 90 day resignation and the company wanted to meet with me to see what they could do to get me to reconsider. I mentioned salary (without mentioning anything about the pay difference) and the VP (female) was quick to say we won’t be talking about that right now. Rather I was given a book titled how to be a team player. I have been incredibly anxious and not myself because my schedule is insane and I have a 9 mo old. VP said “everyone misses the old (insert my name)” and she suggested I talk to someone, like our EAP counselor. Following week we met again, I was given a copy of our benefits package that I was given 2.5 years ago when I was hired to remind me that our benefits are great.

WHAT DO I DO? Is this fair since he negotiated for that salary? My notice is still in but I don’t want to go another 90 days like this.

If you made it this far, thanks!

On Reddit as a prolific user and mod, it's not the consistent threats of violence against my life and my safety from men, which happen nearly every week, that break me down.

It's the constant "covert" remarks and tactics that quietly undermine my perceptions, my expertise, my right to be treated with the most fundamental level of human respect.

It's being told to shut up when I have an opinion. It's being spoken over. It's being undermined and challenged, told that I'm lying about my credentials, accused of harming clients at a job for which I do not have clients. It's being informed that I hate men and have destroyed male clients' lives (again, I do not have clients).

It's politely disagreeing with men about any topic whatsoever and then being called names and insulted no matter how respectfully I speak to them first. It's being told that men know more than I do about my own lived experiences and my identity as a woman.

It's being treated like I'm incapable of being an expert on anything. It's being dismissed immediately because I'm a woman. It's the suggestions that I'm likely single and bitter (I am neither).

It's insidious, it's pervasive, it's "subtle," it happens every day, and it cuts deeper than any threatened violence ever could.

Disclaimer: I am NOT looking for suggestions to step away from reddit or to take care of myself. I just want to vent. I don't want advice. I just want to be heard.

A few days ago my car slid out on black ice and I hit a curb a little too hard. My one tire was going flat so I pulled the car over and called my mom and my husband. My mom was coming to pick up my daughter and my husband was gonna help me put the spare tire on. I figured I'd get started as best as I could to make the process easier. One guy stopped and asked if I needed help. I told him I was fine and help was on the way. I thanked him and he left. A few minutes later another guy stopped. He came out amd I told him I didn't need help I had someone coming. He said "Well I'm a nice guy I should help you until help arrives." I told him I appreciated the sentiment but I would be ok I know how to change a tire. He said "Well I'm a gentleman and I want to help you." He glaced at my daughter in the back seat. I told him firmly I was fine and since help was coming he would be wasting his time and I don't want or need his help. I stepped between him and my car. He seemed offended that I was refusing his help and told me as such and I once again told him firmly and rather rudely told him my husband was on his way and he'd be arriving shortly and I'd be fine. He got all huffy and was like "why didn't you tell me sooner" and turned around and left.

Some of my family told me the guy was probably just trying to help but the fact that he wouldn't take no for an answer creeped me out. I'd like to think that most men would understand why a small female on the side of the road on some back road would not want to be alone with a strange man especially when they have a small child with them. My mom had told me I did the right thing. I'd rather come across as rude and crazy than risk getting hurt. My husband thinks the guy was weird because he full well understands why a woman would not want to accept help from someone. I thought it was dumb because he knew I had help coming yet he was super pushy about staying and helping until I dropped that it was my husband coming.

So men please don't take it the wrong way if we don't want your help. We don't know what your intentions are for helping us out.

Ladies don't be afraid to stop being polite once someone starts getting pushy.

I usually love to have sex and everything associated with it but I had pretty bad cramps while on my period and did not want to be touched at all in the moment but my boyfriend wanted to have sex while we were together at his house. I told him that he could rub his penis up against my vulva as an alternative but to please not go inside. I let him grind up against me while doing this and then I felt him position himself in order to insert inside me and I said “No, don’t go inside” and he said “shh” and just held me down as he penetrated me until he finished inside of me. I am so angry and tried to explain to him what he did but he just apologizes and says that he didn’t realize that he was inside of me or what he had done even though I told him.. I am trying my best to move on from this but I feel that nothing can be done to make me forgive him. I told him about my sexual abuse as a child and how I was raped recently as well and I’m furious that he wouldn’t listen to me. I like him a lot and I want to make it work but he crossed a boundary. Can a relationship ever truly heal after rape and such a boundary is crossed?

I am well into my 40s. I volunteer in a soup kitchen. There are 5-6 of us that cook together every week, only 2 are men. I haven't had to work alongside a man well into their 70s in about 25 years and holy fuck, it's SOOO frustrating. The mansplaining, the condescension...it's constant and it's so annoying, to the point that I am almost ready to be done VOLUNTEERING for this organization. I barely put up with this crap in my 20s when I was getting paid for it, but this is for fun and purpose and in my free time.

The saddest thing is seeing the other women and how they react to it. They are all much older than me, and in the same generation pool as these men and they just take it. They never learned to push back, they are just more patient than me?? They complain to me and we all constantly roll our eyes to each other, but whereas I will speak my mind and tell the men to back off, they just nod their heads to keep the peace. And I am in no way complaining about them not standing up for themselves, I am complaining about the bad behavior on the men's part.

I retort with “Pour it in front of me” and then most guys will roll their eyes to the moon. Ofc it’s a joke but this does sometimes happen irl and it’s sad.

I was molested as a child by a family friends son who was a few years older than me. He went to prison for killing someone (unrelated) for 15 years and has just been released. While he was in prison he sent me letters about how he's still in love with me and wants to date me. I've kept my silence this whole time out of fear of what my family will think. I don't want to cause a big fight or scene at this dinner. I mostly just want to be left alone and not have to deal with this.

As woman and minority, I feel like doctors constantly ignoring me or telling me "oh it's just your period." I literally went to the ER for unbearable pain before my period. I was told to take some tylenol, use a heating pad, and go home. I feel like I'm being a labeled as dramatic contantly. I do have pmdd but that's not an excuse to write me off as delusional or emotional when I'm having pain. I told two doctor I was having lower back pain as well. I told them I work a labor intensive job so I wondered if it had anything to do with it or I had hurt myself somehow. Again, dismissed and shrugged off as if nothing. Told to take something over the counter for pain again. Last night, I came home with excruciating pain in my back, hips, and legs. I could barely walk. I finally recovered this morning for the most part but this can't be normal for someone in their 30s.

It's frustrating and makes me want to cry. I gotten to a point where I don't want to go to the doctor anymore. I got a MRI awhile ago when dismissed at the ER and recently an abdomen ultrasound. Both turned out normal. My new doctor barely looked at me during my last appointment and gave me a referral to gyn. I fell like I was talking to a wall tho. She looked at her computer the whole time.

I feel like I'm going crazy..

Hi, I know the title sounds rough but let me explain myself (I am 15).

At school we have a buffet were you can buy snacks, food and candy, so mostly everyday on the breaks I go and queue to buy.

As we are a lot, the line isn’t perfect and we end up all next to each other, so we are all the students pretty close when buying. It is not the greatest experience but I’m still fine with it.

But the issue comes when the mentally disabled students (who are 2 years older than me) are next to me. One time one of them started touching my hair and talking to me (I barely had any interaction with him), at another time another one of them was constantly pushing a boy who was next to me to the point where he started screaming so that the others would help him.

There are no teachers or adults during breaks paying attention to them, it’s like we all just have to accept their inappropriate behaviors just because “they are special” and “they don’t really mean it”.

I am really uncomfortable around them and feel unsafe, even when I go to the bathroom I have to be aware. Do you have any similar experiences?

BTW: These has never happened to me with mentally disabled teen women.

I was at work last night and was moving some large crates on wheels with another member of staff. We're both petite women, so we were struggling a bit as the crates were larger than us and very heavy.

I was trying to hold two doors open so that she could wheel one through, but I was struggling because my arms weren't long enough to reach both sides of the frame because they're double doors.

A male member of staff (who isn't a superior role to us) then came over and told me I needed to "open the doors for her to get this through" as if I wasn't already actively doing that.

Did he offer to hold open one of the doors as I couldn't reach both? No.

Did he offer to help the other woman push the heavy crate? No.

Just stood there watching, sipping his drink and stating the obvious. I don't know how we'd possibly have managed to get the job done without his brilliant observations!

i got a massage the other day. this isn't something i can do for myself often. in fact it's been years since my last one.

anyways, not the point.

i got a full body with hot stones. in order to book the day i wanted, i had to pick a male therapist. que the anxiety.

my back goes great, and i am so relaxed. he's been an angel this whole time. i am finally able to feel the pressure that's been building due to tension releasing in my back, head, and jaw.

then he moves to my legs. in a quick, well-rehearsed manner, he whips back the two layers of blankets cover my naked body, and quickly runs his arm up the inside of my thigh with the blanket. suddenly, i'm fearful in every corner of my skin. i grabbed the edge of the blanket in my hand as tight as i could to protect myself.

then, just as soon as the fear came, i realized that he was simply tucking the blanket so he could massage my leg. to me, it had felt like the 100s of times a man tried to touch me without my consent and it scared the daylights out of me. to him, he was simply trying to get to where he needed to in order to do his job, and help me.

he so carefully released the blankets from the iron grip i was already loosening, and went about massaging my knotty leg.

when it came to the rest of my limbs, he was so careful and cautious. he never moved so quickly again with me. he only took one layer off at a time, and gently tucked it lower on my thigh.

he didn't even say anything either, which i find to be the best part. there was never any need for me to explain; he simply noticed that he had made me uncomfortable and adjusted his behavior.

this is the second interaction i've had with a man in a professional setting where i've been made to feel MORE comfortable! it's small, it might be silly, but i can't stop thinking about that feeling of safety afterwards.

edit 1: spelling edit 2: adding the editing of "edit 1: spelling"

Just started a new relationship and about two months in. We haven’t had sex yet but he’s starting to pressure me more and more into not using condoms for our first time (I’m on birth control). We’ve explicitly said we’re not officially monogamous but we’ve communicated we don’t see other people. Generally he’s getting more insistent (although it’s mostly playful/jokes but pervasive). I’m a survivor of sexual assault so this all comes off as pretty scary to me. Is this a dealbreaker enough to leave or is this just me overreaching?

My brother and sister in law recently announced a pregnancy with twins, and of course friends and family were all overjoyed. Everything seemed to be going well, we found out they were both girls, no issues or abnormalities detected in genetic and chromosomal testing. Sadly we just discovered she lost one of the twins, i’m not entirely sure of the details and I don’t want to ask nor would I feel comfortable sharing them online. Is there anything I can do or say beyond just being there for her and my brother to help ease the pain? Anything I can give her? My mother was crying at the news and if my mother is reacting this way I can only imagine the devastation they are feeling.